You don’t have to fake it anymore


Some days, you’re just tired. Tired of putting on the brave face. Tired of pretending everything’s great when—behind closed doors—it hurts so much.

You smile for the kids. You show up for work. You serve at church. But inside? You’re barely holding it together.

I’ve been there. And I want you to know: You’re not crazy, and you’re not alone.

Consider

Betrayal turns your world upside down.

And when no one else sees what’s going on, it’s easy to start questioning yourself:
Is it really that bad? Am I just being dramatic?

But here’s the truth—your pain is valid. You don’t have to fake your way through healing. In fact, real freedom begins the moment you stop pretending.

That’s where coaching comes in. It gives you space to be real. To feel what you need to feel. And to gently walk toward healing—without judgment, without pressure, and without having to do it alone.

Reflect

What would it feel like to let someone see the truth behind your closed doors?
What if being honest didn’t mean falling apart—but finally being free?

You don’t have to wear the mask anymore. You can still be strong and ask for help.

🙏🏻 May I pray for you?

Dear God, You see the pain Reader’s been hiding from the world. You know how heavy it feels to keep it all together when everything inside is breaking. Would you meet Reader in the hidden places? Give her the courage to be honest, and bring someone safe to walk with her. Thank you that she doesn’t have to do this alone. Amen.


Reader, you don’t have to keep pretending. Let’s talk. Schedule your free Find Hope Again session today.

Kirsten D Samuel LLC

I empower faith-based women like you to recover well after discovering their husband's or significant others struggle with the dark places on the internet. Every Monday you'll receive encouragement and other carefully curated content to help you heal and find the freedom you desire.

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