Surviving the holidays… and your husband?


Ah, the holidays—sparkly lights, peppermint mochas, and that one relative who still asks awkward questions. It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year… but if your marriage is hurting, it can feel more like survival mode.

Even if he’s doing the “right things” in recovery, your heart may still feel tender, tired, and maybe even betrayed. You’re trying to hold it together, but inside, you’re wondering, How do I make it through this season?

I get it. That’s why I created The Reckless Pursuit of Wonder and Joy When His Lies Break Your Heart—a free, one-hour webinar to help you rediscover hope and experience real joy this holiday season.

We’ll talk about:
✨ The #1 key to joy (and no, it’s not pretending everything’s okay)
💛 How to find wonder when your world feels upside down
🌿 My simple PAUSE tool—designed to help you calm your mind, breathe again, and reconnect with God’s peace.

You don’t have to fake joy this year. You can find it again—even here.

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Kirsten D Samuel LLC

I empower faith-based women like you to recover well after discovering their husband's or significant others struggle with the dark places on the internet. Every Monday you'll receive encouragement and other carefully curated content to help you heal and find the freedom you desire.

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