You don't have to earn this


My girls have raved about their air fryers for years, and I just nodded along. Two people who don't eat much fried food don't need another gadget, especially in a condo with barely enough cabinet space for what we already own.

Then I set off the smoke alarm heating pot stickers in a pan on the stove. Again. 🤦🏻‍♀️ For the bazillionth time. 🫤 Yes, that's a word.

This week, I finally bought the air fryer. Dinner came out perfect in ten minutes. No oven to heat up, no alarm blaring through the kitchen, no scrubbing a pan afterward. Just food that worked, without me forcing it.

What’s Been On My Heart

I don't need more things. My closets are full, my heart isn't chasing stuff. What I want is acceptance, joy, and peace, the kind that doesn't rise and fall with my circumstances.

But there are still places inside me that ache, issues I bring to God again and again, begging him to heal. This week, he reminded me of something I keep forgetting: he rescues me and delights in me. Not because I earned it. Simply because he chose to.

Every maneuver I make to control the outcome gets me no closer to peace. God alone leads me to the safe place.

His presence.

"He led me to a place of safety; he rescued me because he delights in me." — 2 Samuel 22:20 (NLT)

Dear one, you don't have to earn your way into his delight. He already chose you.

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🙏🏻 A Prayer for You

Dear God, as these summer days wind down with their warmth and sunshine, help Reader grasp your delight. Not because Reader is perfect, has life together, or breathes success, but because you chose to redeem Reader. Make this real in Reader's DNA. Where fear screams, bring your quiet peace. Thank you. Amen.

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